Are Breakups Worse For Women Or For Men? Or Is There A Difference?
There is a difference in how people experience a breakup, but it has more to do with who the person is and the relationship they were in then it does their gender.
A person who’s been in a relationship for a couple of months will probably react differently to it ending than a person who’s been in a relationship for 5 years.
You’ll also react differently if the relationship ending came out of nowhere and was a complete surprise, compared to if you knew it was going to end and it was only a matter of when.
There are a lot of other factors that impact how a person copes with a relationship ending including if they were the one who ended the relationship, or if they were the who got dumped. Other things that can impact how they cope include a person’s their support system, their age, and their views on being single.
Also the quality of the relationship. If you were in a mediocre or bad relationship, you’re going to react differently to it ending than if it had been a good relationship.
Regardless of gender, if you’re struggling post break up there are a few things I would suggest.
If you have to maintain contact with them because of shared interest (kids, pets, businesses) then try and come up with a plan as to how you’re going to handle it. If they have to stay in your life in some capacity, you don’t want to have your world feel like it’s getting turned upside down every time you see them.
The one thing I suggest to everyone post breakup, whether there are shared interests or not, is to purge them from your social media. I know it can be tempting... really tempting… to see what your ex is up to, how they look, who they’re hanging out with, and whether they look miserable or not.
But don’t do it.
Having them in your social media feed gives them an opportunity to live in your head rent-free even though the relationship is over, so delete them. You can always decide to add/follow them again in the future if you want to.
Until next time, be safe and have fun!
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