It Doesn’t Matter Who I Sleep With Or How Big His Dick Is. I Can’t Feel Him Inside Me.

Let me start by saying that this is really normal for women. Really normal. Women just don’t talk about it openly all that much.

One of the reasons why you might not feel him inside you is that there just aren't a lot of nerve endings inside the vagina, and so a lot of women say that they can't really feel penetration.

The majority of a woman's nerve endings in the genital area are going to be on the outside, in the clitoris, not inside the vagina.

There are a couple of areas inside the vagina that may feel good when there’s pressure applied to them. Specifically I'm thinking of the G spot and the A spot.

The G spot is inside the vagina, right on the front wall. It’s not really a spot, it’s actually part of the internal portion of the clitoris. For that reason, I can’t give you any more specifics on location other than to say inside wall (belly button side), about a third of the way inside the vagina.

If your partner wants to try and stimulate that area, they should insert one or two fingers inside (not all the way in, remember, outer one third) and make a come here motion with their finger. Remember, they may not find it on the first try and that’s okay.

You can try and do the same, but you may find it easier to use a sex toy.

Check out this one:

Photo by cottonbro studio: https://www.pexels.com/photo/close-up-shot-of-a-person-holding-an-adult-toy-6768326/

Notice it doesn’t go inside the whole length of the vagina, and it curves in to nestle against that front wall. That’s the area you’re aiming for.

Again, don’t get frustrated if you can’t find it the first or second time. That’s normal. And you may find it and not enjoy it when there’s pressure put on it, that’s also normal.

If you and /or your partner are playing around trying to find the G spot, don’t just focus on the G spot. See if there are other areas that feel good. Also play around with different amounts of pressure.

The A spot is also on the front wall of the vagina, but a few inches further up. This can be harder to stimulate. You can try using your fingers, your partner’s fingers, or a sex toy to try and reach it. But keep in mind that the goal of this is try to find an area that feels good, not to frustrate yourself. If you get anxious or frustrated trying to find the A spot or G spot, it’s going to make things that much less pleasurable for you.

And I’m assuming that pleasure is part of what you want to experience during sex play.

So for a minute, let’s just focus on the fact that a lot of women don’t feel penetration. And that means they may not experience a lot of pleasure from it. Some women say they get a little bit of pleasure from knowing their partner is enjoying what’s happening.

But I think that women deserve to enjoy pleasure from more than just that. You may want to talk to your partner about what else you two can do that would bring you more pleasure.

If you find that you like having your clitoris stimulated you can work that into sex play. And there are ways that your partner can stimulate your clitoris while they’re inside you. Certain positions can make this happen, or they can use their fingers. Some sex toys like the one in the picture above, is designed to be worn during penetration. You can also use your fingers while they’re inside you.

So know that what you’re experiencing is quite common, but there are things you can do to try and get more pleasure out of your sex play.

Until next time, be safe and have fun!

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