Will Masturbating Frequently Make It Harder For You To Orgasm With Another Person?

 I've been going back and forth on how to answer this question, because I feel like I can answer it in two different ways. So I’ll give you both answers.

Technically speaking, if you are masturbating frequently, you can't wear it out. Unless you're feeling a whole lot of fatigue from your masturbatory habits, masturbating frequently isn’t going to make it harder to have an orgasm with another person. That’s from a straightforward anatomy and physiology perspective.

But there are a few things that are holding me back from saying “here's your answer, and we’re done.” The first is what you’re masturbating to, if anything. Because that could have an impact on your ability to orgasm with another person.

If you are masturbating to a thought, or image, or sound, then it could possibly be hard to orgasm without those things. It's not that you can't orgasm with another person. It’s more about not being able to orgasm without that specific thing. But if that’s not an issue for you, then don’t worry about it.

The other thing is that when people masturbate they tend to know the best way to reach their goal. If they’re trying to make it last, maybe do a little edging, they know how to touch themselves in a way that they can bring themselves just to the brink of orgasm, and then back off so they can do it all again (if you want to know more about edging, just ask!)

Or maybe someone wants to get off really fast. They know the best ways of getting themselves off in the shortest time possible.

Another person probably doesn’t know your body the way you know your body. So if they’re not touching you in a way that you need at that moment, it can make it more difficult to orgasm.

But the issue isn’t being caused by the fact that you masturbated. It’s being caused by the fact that you’re not getting the kind of touch you want or need in the moment.

If this is the issue, then this can be pretty quickly addressed by telling them what you want. You can do this verbally by telling them what you want them to do. Or you can do it nonverbally by guiding their hand, mouth, or sex toy to the spot you want. And then helping show them the specifics you want in terms of speed, pressure, or direction.

Or you can show them by masturbating in front of them.

So the answer to the question is that no masturbating three times a week shouldn't make it harder to orgasm with your partner. But there’s one more issue I need to talk about before I end this.

And that’s guilt and/or shame.

If you feel like you’re masturbating “too much” and feel guilt or shame about it, then that can be a problem. It can make it harder to orgasm with someone else, or even by yourself.

And how much is “too much” is really subjective. But just for the record, I don’t think that three times a week is too much.

If your partner is uncomfortable with you masturbating, and you're feeling guilty about what you do when they’re not around, then that can be an issue. The guilt could make it harder for you to orgasm when you’re with your partner.

So theoretically, masturbating three times a week should not have an impact on your ability to orgasm with another person. But if you're finding that it does, try to figure out if it's because you're feeling guilty, or feeling tired, or if it’s that the other person just isn't doing what you need them to do.

Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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