Is It Possible For A Guy Giving A Woman Oral Sex And He Comes?

Yes it is absolutely possible for this kind of thing to happen.

If he were touching himself while he was doing it, like if he was masturbating while he was getting her off, then yes totally possible.

But maybe he wasn’t. Maybe his entire focus was on her and her pleasure, and her reaction to him giving her pleasure. In that case, it is possible for him to have come while going down on her. Though I will say it’s way less common for this to happen without physical stimulation.

Men often use some kind of physical stimulation to get off. That can be through masturbation, or anal sex, or vaginal sex, or if he’s on the receiving end of oral sex.

But that kind of physical stimulation is not always necessary.

I think people often forget that the brain is a sexual organ. If you've ever been in the middle of sex play with someone and your brain is not turned on you know this. Your brain could be anywhere else, like wondering if you left the stove on, to thinking about an upcoming deadline at work or school. Maybe you’re just not as turned on by your partner as you used to be. Or maybe you are, but you’re mad at them at the moment. Or it could be a hundred other things.

Whatever is causing his brain to not be fully present can make it harder for a guy to ejaculate. Not impossible, but harder. And in the end, it may not be as enjoyable an experience.

For women when they talk about an inability to get wet during sex play, it’s often because their brains haven’t had the time to turn on yet. Once her brain gets stimulated it's much easier for her to be in the moment. Now that doesn't guarantee she’s going to orgasm, but it is more likely for her to get lubricated and to enjoy the moment.

When women get frustrated by their partner not making sure their sexual needs are met, often it’s not just about the physical side of sex play, but also about the mental side.

Back to the question about a man coming when giving a woman oral sex. This could be one of those situations where he is so turned on by the experience, by her reactions to the oral sex, that he ejaculates. It’s not common, but it is possible.

For some people, their goal is to learn how to do this when not in any kind of sexual situation. It’s the idea that they can think themselves off. This often includes learning tantric practices, breathing exercises, and meditation.

If this question was based on a personal experience and you were the guy, please don’t become hyper-fixated on replicating this! It would be great if it could happen, assuming you enjoyed it the first time.

But if you focus on trying to replicate it, that can actually make future experiences less exciting. Remember how important the brain is for stimulation, and if you’re too focused thinking “how do I do this again” or “why isn’t this happening the same as last time!” it can pull you out of the moment completely.

 Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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