Why Are Guys So Against Things In Their Butts If That’s Where Their G-Spot Is?

That's a good question.

First off, a lot of men don't realize that their G-spot is up their butt. I'm going to start calling it the P-spot. I do this for a couple of reasons. The main one is because it’s more accurate. The male P-spot is the prostate gland. If you want to read more about my other reasons, check out this post.

Outside of not knowing that there is the possibility for a lot of pleasure by putting something up their butt, there are a few reasons why men may not be willing to do this.

One is that they’re afraid that if they stick something up their butt, it will get stuck there. This is a legitimate fear. There are posts that often float around on social media where medical staff talk about what they have in their “butt box.” These are the things that had to be removed from people’s butts.

Regardless of what sex you are, if you are inserting something in your butt make sure it either has a string or handle to pull it out with. Or use something with a flared base. This means that the base is wider than the opening it’s going in to.

There’s also a fear that butt play can hurt. And it can! But there are ways to limit pain. If you’re engaging in butt play, you want to make sure you’re going slowly, using a lot of lube, and have good communication with your partner. If you want to read more about how to make butt stuff hurt less, check out this post.

But all that aside, I think that for a lot of guys, what it really comes down to is this idea that they have been taught that if they enjoy something going up their butts that means they're gay. And sadly, homophobia is a very real thing in this country.

This is a really good place for me to point out that your orientation is not about what's being done to you. It’s about whether or not you’re turned on by the person who's doing it to you. Or by who you’re thinking of when something is happening. Let me explain.

If you're a man and there's a girl putting something up your ass and you're getting turned on not just by the thing going up your butt, but also by the girl that's doing it, then you're probably not gay. If you’re thinking about a guy while all this is happening and getting turned on by those thoughts, then in that case you might be gay or bisexual.

Many people don’t understand that it’s not a specific action or behavior that indicates your orientation. Homophobia has been so engrained in so many people, that some men would rather avoid doing anything that people associate with being gay.

Including missing out on what might be some really enjoyable sex play.

Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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