Does The Hymen Break Only When Having Sex With A Penis?

Let me start by giving you a quick answer, which is that the hymen can break other ways than from a penis.

If you want to see the original article on “popping the cherry” you can find it here.

The problem with this term “popping the cherry” is that we get this idea that the first time a girl or woman has vaginal intercourse there's going to be this ripping of the hymen. And then blood along with horrible pain. And we scare people into thinking that this is going to be incredibly traumatic.

And that's just not what it usually looks like.

The hymen stretches over time. Fingers can stretch it. So can putting in a tampon. Being physically active can also stretch it.

This stretching can eventually lead to it ripping. In that case, she might not notice anything at all. Or there might be a bit of pain. There might also be a bit of blood.

But again, there might not be anything noticeable at all.

So there are things other than the penis, and other than sexual activity, that can cause the hymen to break.

This doesn’t mean that vaginal intercourse may not hurt the first time she has it.

There are a lot of reasons why this happens. An inexperienced partner. Lack of communication during sex play. Not using lube.

Our mindset going into sex play can also impact the experience.

And for people raised in a country where we tell them that the first time you have sex it’s going to hurt, it’s natural to be scared. And that fear can make the experience less comfortable. It can also make it harder to get wet, which can make it more painful.

If you want to know more about the reasons why sex might hurt the first time, that have nothing to do with the hymen, just ask!

So let me sum up. The hymen can break from many things other than a penis.

This means she might never even know the moment when it breaks since there are so many things that can cause it to happen.

And just to make sure it’s said, the absence of a hymen does not mean anything about her sexual history.

Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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