Why Do Some Guys Get So Excited Off Of Boobs?

There are a lot of things that impact what people find sexy and get excited by. I'm sure someone who's from an evolutionary biology background would say something about healthy breasts and the ability to feed children.

But I’m going to focus on more of the sex education side.

Our culture teaches people what’s considered attractive and sexy. It’s one of the many reasons why what we consider to be the “ideal” male and female body changes over time.

In this country we have conditioned straight men to believe that boobs are sexy. Think about a woman in media or on social media who is considered sexy. In any given image, how much cleavage is she showing? Sure people use clothing to highlight certain parts of their body, whether it’s their butt, or their figure, but what’s on display is often cleavage.

A way that we know that this part of the body is sexy, is that we will sometimes see it covered up after the fact. I’m noticing this more and more in social media, where an image has something added on top of the cleavage to block it from being seen. And telling people something shouldn’t be seen is often enough to peak people’s curiosity and want to see it more.

And this starts young. It starts with dress codes which are often aimed at female bodies. Seriously, check out the dress code rules for middle schools in your local area. There is usually mention of breasts or cleavage. Feel free to post what you find as a comment.

So we teach people when they’re young that this area should be covered up. So of course people get excited when they see it.

Boobs are part of the sexual experience and for many men they see boobs as a stepping stone to something more. Think about the traditional baseball analogy of sex play. Second base is anything above the waist. So boobs are not only sexual things, but they bring up these ideas of what can come next.

(For the record this is one of the many, many reasons why I’m not a fan of the baseball analogy when it comes to sex play. I would love someone to ask me a question about this.)

What’s always interesting to me is that we mark boobs as a step in sex play, but what we hear from a lot of women is that male partners don’t really know who to stimulate breasts in a way that feels good for them. Women will often report that men do things to female breasts that feel good for the men, but not so much for the women.

We could blame this on a lack of education on how to stimulate nipples and boobs. We could also blame this on the fact that sex play often centers around men’s pleasure and not women’s.

A lack of education and centering men’s pleasure would also explain why men often don’t know how to make a lot of sex play enjoyable for women.

Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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