I Am A 64-Year-Old Male. For Most Of My Adult Life, I Have Had Extremely Sensitive Nipples. How Unusual Is This?

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I am a 64 year old male and feel like I have a unique situation. For most of my adult life, I have had extremely sensitive nipples. Off the chart sensitive, as they are the focal point of my sexual arousal. I masturbate first touching my nipples and only masturbate my penis when I’m ready to ejaculate. I can have a non-ejaculatory orgasm simply by touching and doing different things to my nipples. How unusual is this?

I often wonder if this is biology, or learned, or something else? When I touch my nipples, I feel waves of femininity coursing through my system, so I wonder if it could also be hormone related. I’ve searched high and low for any research studies on male nipples arousal but have had no luck. I truly feel like it is a blessing and a curse. Can you provide any insight? Thank you.

 Great question! And I can tell you that while this may not be super common, it’s not as uncommon as you may think. I’ve actually gotten a similar question from a couple of men of different ages over the years.

If you need an answer as to why it’s happening, my guess would be a combination. Of both biology and what you’ve learned from past experiences.

I’m not really leaning towards hormones in this situation. Though future research may prove me wrong.

And speaking of research I think it will surprise no one when I say we don’t have a lot of research on nipple stimulation in men. But there is some!

In one study of college students, more than half of men said that nipple stimulation either caused or enhanced their sexual arousal. Which I think is higher than what most people would expect.

This is because when we think of breasts, and nipples, and stimulation in our culture we tend to associate that with women. That social scripting could be tied to why you feel feminine when you touch your nipples. It may also have nothing to do with it, and that’s just how you’re wired.

There was another study that looked specifically at the brain in men when different parts of their body were stimulated. They did this using fMRI. An fMRI, which is functional magnetic resonance imaging, looks at blood flow changes in the brain.

The study found that in some men nipple stimulation can activate the same areas in the brain that are also activated when the genitals are stimulated. If you want to see the study, you can use this link.

While there’s definitely evidence that this could be biological, it could also be learned. If you’ve had some past experience where nipple stimulation felt really good, then that can make future nipple play feel good.

At the end of the day, we don’t 100% understand why one person gets turned on by a specific body part being stimulated, while someone else may hate it entirely.

I’m curious why you think this is both a blessing and a curse. I’m going to take a guess at why, and if I miss the mark completely just let me know.

I’m guessing blessing because it feels really good!

Maybe curse because most partners aren’t used to it. They may not think to try and stimulate your nipples during sex play. Which means that you’re missing out on something that feels good for you and helps you to ejaculate.

It may also be a curse because when you ask a partner to stimulate your nipples, they may think it’s a bit weird. If so, this is a great opportunity to talk about what other things you like that might be unexpected. And it gives you a chance to talk to them about what they like.

Knowing what turns us on and feels good is really important. And if we can learn how to share that with our partner, it can lead to really enjoyable sex play and a greater sense of connection.

Until next time, be safe, and have fun!

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